You don’t need to keep doing that negative behaviour no more because you know the damage it is doing to you and others. I wonder if you could imagine what you could do if this negative behaviour was gone?
I used to bite my nails terribly and it happened all day, even when not stressed or anxious. It was a negative behaviour that I knew when it was going to happen. Since starting my journey I have stopped and they are getting stronger and longer. I know it worked for me so it will work for you.
You are never going to have this negative behaviour again. Your unconscious mind will take on the words I am saying and you will feel like you have control. No habit can stand up to the power of your mind.
Let me tell you a story, there was a young twenty-something woman standing there on the station platform with her rucksack. It was a warm day and she knew that something was changing inside her, she took a deep breaths before stepping onto the train. She settled down into her seat and began to feel relaxed, however she was unaware at each station someone was placing something in her bag – making it heavier and heavier. The train seemed to take hours and the woman was feeling tired but she was nearly at her destination – nearly home she thought, the warm memories filled her mind and she was eager to get off.
She arrived at her destination and placed the heavy bag on her back, she wondered where the extra weight had come from but she still took the excess baggage and made her way home. Each step was becoming like lead and each time she stopped the lights got dimmer until there was nothing but darkness. She had some way to go and her energy was wearing thin, she didn’t know what to do. So she stopped and began to sob. What was she going to do?
Part of your mind is wondering how the woman allowed herself you get bogged down by others baggage when she was there. This is what I call overwhelm and it happens to us all at times in our life, this woman was me and I had taken on all the rubbish from others such as negative chatter, changes in my beliefs and life circumstances. And you will be surprised how quickly you get there.
I wonder if you can imagine a time when you have felt so present and at peace that nothing can stop you. You don’t need to be overwhelmed, you can control it and you will begin to feel more relaxed in yourself.
By using my own internal resources (that I never knew I had) and new tools from my journey I know that you will benefit from this too. Wouldn’t it be good to feel relaxed? Or maybe you would like to work on some goals and be in complete control.
A New Week
I am sure we have all overindulged this weekend, it is normal. However like most festivities it is a few days of overindulgence.
Don’t feel guilty or shame over this, it is easy to do so but you are using your energy wrong.
I learned that taking emotions out of food means we enjoy it more and are less likely to binge. That must sound good? Yes.
That’s the wonder of coaching with ne, I can help you turn that guilt/shame into something that will enable you to feel energised.
Why not message me for a chat? It’ll be the beginning of a new you.
I know that you want to know more about yourself. And that is a good thing, it can help you grow.
As you find more then you will become more confident. You are liking what you see.
Your new discoveries mean that you will feel comfortable and open to growth. You are reading this and know that working with me is good for you.
You want to start your new journey. Don’t you?
Message me for a chat about what you want in life and let me help you fix your compass.
Empowerment and Confidence.
That’s what I am offering you. What would make you feel Empowered or Confident?
I can show you how to make these changes and you will see the difference and begin to accept the changes easily. You will realise that the changes are easy and you will enjoy the new you.
Are you ready to make a change? Yes.
Music and Me
Most people can recall some music from their childhood and for me music was a very strong influencer in my life. My Dad loved music and was a singer in his younger years and I have memories of sitting there listening to The Who with him, my Mum loves music too and it was a family tradition to play music on a Sunday afternoon.
My first formal training in music was in my early teens where I learned the flute initially at Secondary School, this then changed to me learning the alto saxophone later on – which I succeeded with and became an accomplished musician gaining my qualifications and winning awards. You will see in my novels that I have had an on and off relationship with music but it has always been there. I remember my Dad often say “music will bite you again in the future” and it did.
I have started playing again and it is wonderful. Performing makes me feel like a centrifuge of activity that wants to explode, learning a new song is like falling in love and the warmth that it gives you.
What are your creative hobbies and how do they make you feel?
I use music often in my coaching as it is a way of determining your mindset and allowing free flowing thoughts to come about for you to grow. I really feel I have accomplished something when someone’s music changes over the sessions.
In the near future I am running a course that will encompass this and allow you to express yourself as a creative – if you would like further information please like this post.
We have a 1 in 4 chance of suffering from mental health issues throughout our life and yet there is still the stigma and confusion around it; am I mental? Am I sane? Do I need to be institutionalised?
There are many causes of depression and anxiety but there is no wrong or right way to treat it. Medication can really help, I see it as you are stuck in a hole in the ground and the medication gives you the materials of a ladder to get you out of there but you still have to do the work. That is when therapy can help, it can be difficult to find what works for you.
Yet, there is a lot of peer support out there. When I first experienced mental health issues there wasn’t much out there for me but I was to find that the internet was great at offering me this peer led support. This level of support allows you to be aware of others that are in a similar condition and develop better strategies of dealing with things.
You are more than your diagnosis and it does not define you as a person. It may influence how your version of the world looks and how others look at you but being honest and open about your experiences not only helps others it helps you grow as a person.
That’s why I am writing my memoirs and I hope to share my insights with you and help you realise you are not alone. I experienced bullying and other trauma during my teenage years that impacted me as a person and those experiences morphed my view of the world leading to some quite poor strategies that did not help. By writing my story it helped me heal and grow.
If you require any support do not hesitate to reach out for help. There is lots of support out there, reach out to someone you trust and tell them how you feel. If you are a concerned family member, don’t be afraid of asking how someone is; this can be a big relief, the person may not respond immediately but they will know that you are there for them.
When we go through challenges and setbacks it’s hard to see the bigger picture. That little voice on your shoulder telling you those horrible things can pull you further from your goals.
What I want you to do is write that mindchatter down – spend a few minutes doing this. Don’t throw it away but take a deep breath then find one that stands out and put it as an affirmation.
An example may be; “I’m not good enough to perform”
The affirmation would be; ” I am a great musician and I will get that audition.”
Repeat the affirmation til you believe it. It will make a difference.
With any work with me, I suggest some self care – a cup of tea and chill out for bit.
Let me know how you get on by dropping me a message.