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Music and Me
Most people can recall some music from their childhood and for me music was a very strong influencer in my life. My Dad loved music and was a singer in his younger years and I have memories of sitting there listening to The Who with him, my Mum loves music too and it was a family tradition to play music on a Sunday afternoon.
My first formal training in music was in my early teens where I learned the flute initially at Secondary School, this then changed to me learning the alto saxophone later on – which I succeeded with and became an accomplished musician gaining my qualifications and winning awards. You will see in my novels that I have had an on and off relationship with music but it has always been there. I remember my Dad often say “music will bite you again in the future” and it did.
I have started playing again and it is wonderful. Performing makes me feel like a centrifuge of activity that wants to explode, learning a new song is like falling in love and the warmth that it gives you.
What are your creative hobbies and how do they make you feel?
I use music often in my coaching as it is a way of determining your mindset and allowing free flowing thoughts to come about for you to grow. I really feel I have accomplished something when someone’s music changes over the sessions.
In the near future I am running a course that will encompass this and allow you to express yourself as a creative – if you would like further information please like this post.

The Black Dog and Me

We have a 1 in 4 chance of suffering from mental health issues throughout our life and yet there is still the stigma and confusion around it; am I mental? Am I sane? Do I need to be institutionalised?
There are many causes of depression and anxiety but there is no wrong or right way to treat it. Medication can really help, I see it as you are stuck in a hole in the ground and the medication gives you the materials of a ladder to get you out of there but you still have to do the work. That is when therapy can help, it can be difficult to find what works for you.
Yet, there is a lot of peer support out there. When I first experienced mental health issues there wasn’t much out there for me but I was to find that the internet was great at offering me this peer led support. This level of support allows you to be aware of others that are in a similar condition and develop better strategies of dealing with things.
You are more than your diagnosis and it does not define you as a person. It may influence how your version of the world looks and how others look at you but being honest and open about your experiences not only helps others it helps you grow as a person.
That’s why I am writing my memoirs and I hope to share my insights with you and help you realise you are not alone. I experienced bullying and other trauma during my teenage years that impacted me as a person and those experiences morphed my view of the world leading to some quite poor strategies that did not help. By writing my story it helped me heal and grow.
If you require any support do not hesitate to reach out for help. There is lots of support out there, reach out to someone you trust and tell them how you feel. If you are a concerned family member, don’t be afraid of asking how someone is; this can be a big relief, the person may not respond immediately but they will know that you are there for them.

Opening your mind

When we go through challenges and setbacks it’s hard to see the bigger picture. That little voice on your shoulder telling you those horrible things can pull you further from your goals.

What I want you to do is write that mindchatter down – spend a few minutes doing this.  Don’t throw it away but take a deep breath then find one that stands out and put it as an affirmation.

An example may be; “I’m not good enough to perform”
The affirmation would be; ” I am a great musician and I will get that audition.”

Repeat the affirmation til you believe it. It will make a difference.

With any work with me, I suggest some self care – a cup of tea and chill out for bit.

Let me know how you get on by dropping me a message.

Jo