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Scaffolding

Rebuilding yourself

Whilst going through a house clearance due to us moving house (exciting yet stressful) I looked through old paperwork and I found some medical notes and mental health reviews. I was shocked yo be honest and felt I wasn’t looking at my records – that person was stuck and that lead to depression and anxiety, she was unhappy with everything.

But, I did start to rebuild and it was hard. Some things didn’t help and I didn’t have the strength to push. Yet, I now have the life I want.

A great partner, good friends, my own house, losing weight and I am successful as a coach.

We all need to make steps towards a goal, it doesn’t have to be big. But we all need help to encapsulate whay resources we have and which ones we need.

A great tool for that is NLP – during a coaching session I will know what tools to offer you and help you access these to achieve your goals.

What changes can you do today? How can I help you?

Releasing your baggage

Let me tell you a story, there was a young twenty-something woman standing there on the station platform with her rucksack. It was a warm day and she knew that something was changing inside her, she took a deep breaths before stepping onto the train. She settled down into her seat and began to feel relaxed, however she was unaware at each station someone was placing something in her bag – making it heavier and heavier. The train seemed to take hours and the woman was feeling tired but she was nearly at her destination – nearly home she thought, the warm memories filled her mind and she was eager to get off.
She arrived at her destination and placed the heavy bag on her back, she wondered where the extra weight had come from but she still took the excess baggage and made her way home. Each step was becoming like lead and each time she stopped the lights got dimmer until there was nothing but darkness. She had some way to go and her energy was wearing thin, she didn’t know what to do. So she stopped and began to sob. What was she going to do?
Part of your mind is wondering how the woman allowed herself you get bogged down by others baggage when she was there. This is what I call overwhelm and it happens to us all at times in our life, this woman was me and I had taken on all the rubbish from others such as negative chatter, changes in my beliefs and life circumstances. And you will be surprised how quickly you get there.
I wonder if you can imagine a time when you have felt so present and at peace that nothing can stop you. You don’t need to be overwhelmed, you can control it and you will begin to feel more relaxed in yourself.
By using my own internal resources (that I never knew I had) and new tools from my journey I know that you will benefit from this too. Wouldn’t it be good to feel relaxed? Or maybe you would like to work on some goals and be in complete control.

The Black Dog and Me

We have a 1 in 4 chance of suffering from mental health issues throughout our life and yet there is still the stigma and confusion around it; am I mental? Am I sane? Do I need to be institutionalised?
There are many causes of depression and anxiety but there is no wrong or right way to treat it. Medication can really help, I see it as you are stuck in a hole in the ground and the medication gives you the materials of a ladder to get you out of there but you still have to do the work. That is when therapy can help, it can be difficult to find what works for you.
Yet, there is a lot of peer support out there. When I first experienced mental health issues there wasn’t much out there for me but I was to find that the internet was great at offering me this peer led support. This level of support allows you to be aware of others that are in a similar condition and develop better strategies of dealing with things.
You are more than your diagnosis and it does not define you as a person. It may influence how your version of the world looks and how others look at you but being honest and open about your experiences not only helps others it helps you grow as a person.
That’s why I am writing my memoirs and I hope to share my insights with you and help you realise you are not alone. I experienced bullying and other trauma during my teenage years that impacted me as a person and those experiences morphed my view of the world leading to some quite poor strategies that did not help. By writing my story it helped me heal and grow.
If you require any support do not hesitate to reach out for help. There is lots of support out there, reach out to someone you trust and tell them how you feel. If you are a concerned family member, don’t be afraid of asking how someone is; this can be a big relief, the person may not respond immediately but they will know that you are there for them.

It’s gonna be ok

How are you?

Let us end on a thoughtful context this evening.

Everyone enjoys music, it has been scientifically that it affects every nerve in our body.
My favourite song if I’m feeling down (we all feel numb and down sometimes) is from a film “The Brooke Ellison Story” about a young girl who suffers paralysis and her experiences of growth.

It’s called “Its gonna be ok” and it helped me when I was losing my sight, I related to the lyrics and I get tingles even now.

That’s why working me is great, I’ll get you to explore yourself through pieces of music and that helps me guide your journey.

So, why not find out more and book a free appointment to get your goals on track.

Jo

Opening your mind

When we go through challenges and setbacks it’s hard to see the bigger picture. That little voice on your shoulder telling you those horrible things can pull you further from your goals.

What I want you to do is write that mindchatter down – spend a few minutes doing this.  Don’t throw it away but take a deep breath then find one that stands out and put it as an affirmation.

An example may be; “I’m not good enough to perform”
The affirmation would be; ” I am a great musician and I will get that audition.”

Repeat the affirmation til you believe it. It will make a difference.

With any work with me, I suggest some self care – a cup of tea and chill out for bit.

Let me know how you get on by dropping me a message.

Jo

A Prelude

A prelude for me where you are at crossroads and you want to seek answers.

You are sitting there, wondering what to do with your life. Trying to find your way, maybe you are having problems with time management or lack of self worth.

Let me offer you a 30 minute complimentary chat to work out if I can help you. I have many activities that we can try.

Message me or book on here.

Jo