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Scaffolding

Rebuilding yourself

Whilst going through a house clearance due to us moving house (exciting yet stressful) I looked through old paperwork and I found some medical notes and mental health reviews. I was shocked yo be honest and felt I wasn’t looking at my records – that person was stuck and that lead to depression and anxiety, she was unhappy with everything.

But, I did start to rebuild and it was hard. Some things didn’t help and I didn’t have the strength to push. Yet, I now have the life I want.

A great partner, good friends, my own house, losing weight and I am successful as a coach.

We all need to make steps towards a goal, it doesn’t have to be big. But we all need help to encapsulate whay resources we have and which ones we need.

A great tool for that is NLP – during a coaching session I will know what tools to offer you and help you access these to achieve your goals.

What changes can you do today? How can I help you?

New Behaviours

You don’t need to keep doing that negative behaviour no more because you know the damage it is doing to you and others. I wonder if you could imagine what you could do if this negative behaviour was gone?

I used to bite my nails terribly and it happened all day, even when not stressed or anxious. It was a negative behaviour that I knew when it was going to happen. Since starting my journey I have stopped and they are getting stronger and longer. I know it worked for me so it will work for you.
You are never going to have this negative behaviour again. Your unconscious mind will take on the words I am saying and you will feel like you have control. No habit can stand up to the power of your mind.

Releasing your baggage

Let me tell you a story, there was a young twenty-something woman standing there on the station platform with her rucksack. It was a warm day and she knew that something was changing inside her, she took a deep breaths before stepping onto the train. She settled down into her seat and began to feel relaxed, however she was unaware at each station someone was placing something in her bag – making it heavier and heavier. The train seemed to take hours and the woman was feeling tired but she was nearly at her destination – nearly home she thought, the warm memories filled her mind and she was eager to get off.
She arrived at her destination and placed the heavy bag on her back, she wondered where the extra weight had come from but she still took the excess baggage and made her way home. Each step was becoming like lead and each time she stopped the lights got dimmer until there was nothing but darkness. She had some way to go and her energy was wearing thin, she didn’t know what to do. So she stopped and began to sob. What was she going to do?
Part of your mind is wondering how the woman allowed herself you get bogged down by others baggage when she was there. This is what I call overwhelm and it happens to us all at times in our life, this woman was me and I had taken on all the rubbish from others such as negative chatter, changes in my beliefs and life circumstances. And you will be surprised how quickly you get there.
I wonder if you can imagine a time when you have felt so present and at peace that nothing can stop you. You don’t need to be overwhelmed, you can control it and you will begin to feel more relaxed in yourself.
By using my own internal resources (that I never knew I had) and new tools from my journey I know that you will benefit from this too. Wouldn’t it be good to feel relaxed? Or maybe you would like to work on some goals and be in complete control.

Creative Juices

Morning to you all.

Hope you have had a good week. I admit this week has been a challenge, that is why there has been a lack of posts. Chronic illness can impact you on a completely different level some days. But I’m nearly back to my usual self.

So, a question for you all?

How do you like to get creative? How does it feel?

Maybe you can share an example for all of us, there is no embarrassment or judgement here.

The Trust

Sailing and learning to trust the process.

If you can remember learning to walk you are fortunate, but I want you to sit there for a moment and think of something you have learned that has challenged you.

Keep it in your mind and replay the steps, what becomes apparent to you? After a while come back to the present.

Learning a new skill is hard but worthwhile, remember that we all see things differently and what may be easy for some, it could be difficult for another.

For me, sailing was like that and has other challenges like learning where which halyard is and where goes where. But I learnt to trust the process and become present to it.

So, if you are learning a new skill be aware of how much you achieve and note how far you have come. Learning to trust yourself is a difficult task and as a coach I can help you with that.

Visualise the end goal and be aware of how it feels, looks, smells and write it down. Manifestation is a wonderful thing to trust in.

As always, you can always message me.

Good evening to you all.

The Black Dog and Me

We have a 1 in 4 chance of suffering from mental health issues throughout our life and yet there is still the stigma and confusion around it; am I mental? Am I sane? Do I need to be institutionalised?
There are many causes of depression and anxiety but there is no wrong or right way to treat it. Medication can really help, I see it as you are stuck in a hole in the ground and the medication gives you the materials of a ladder to get you out of there but you still have to do the work. That is when therapy can help, it can be difficult to find what works for you.
Yet, there is a lot of peer support out there. When I first experienced mental health issues there wasn’t much out there for me but I was to find that the internet was great at offering me this peer led support. This level of support allows you to be aware of others that are in a similar condition and develop better strategies of dealing with things.
You are more than your diagnosis and it does not define you as a person. It may influence how your version of the world looks and how others look at you but being honest and open about your experiences not only helps others it helps you grow as a person.
That’s why I am writing my memoirs and I hope to share my insights with you and help you realise you are not alone. I experienced bullying and other trauma during my teenage years that impacted me as a person and those experiences morphed my view of the world leading to some quite poor strategies that did not help. By writing my story it helped me heal and grow.
If you require any support do not hesitate to reach out for help. There is lots of support out there, reach out to someone you trust and tell them how you feel. If you are a concerned family member, don’t be afraid of asking how someone is; this can be a big relief, the person may not respond immediately but they will know that you are there for them.

Announcement

Stepping out

So, as a coach I still need coaching. I struggle with self doubt and negative self-talk. One thing that came up was I need to visible in this field.

So, I’m giving you a chance to decide what I talk about tomorrow evening at 7pm UK on a Live.

I want you to share this and I can let you hear what I think and how I can help you. All I am asking is a share of this post.

After this Live I have some exciting news and a great offer.

https://www.facebook.com/Prelude-Metamorphosis-188648728711293/

 

See you all tomorrow